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It’s time for you to meet yourself.

Another year passed by and it feels like you are still in the same place? Life may be comfortable, sort of ok but something is missing? You have big plans for a big transformation in a back of your head, just like a year ago, but nothing will change if you stay in your victim mode, passively observing how your life is slipping through your fingers. Nothing will change just by wishful thinking. Nothing will change if you don’t take responsibility for your life. For real. This time for real.

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I tend to be hard on myself. I am my…


I looked at her tears running down her cheek with a heartache. She kept repeating the same words that had resounded in my head not long ago: I’m such an idiot, I just wanted the best for him, we could have been so great together, why my love wasn’t enough? If I only…

She knew that the guy was not a good candidate for a partner, and yet she had decided to get emotionally involved in this ‘kinda’ relationship. She chased someone who notoriously was ‘abandoning her’, just as her dad had once abandoned her. She went where she knew she would hurt but this pain seemed better to her than the one she couldn’t deal with for years — the pain of losing her child.

My friend’s situation, as well as my own experiences with the type ‘raised by wolves’, allowed me to understand that the reason why we get into toxic…


I was dreaming of the past
and my heart was beating fast
I began to lose control
I began to lose control
I didn’t mean to hurt you
I’m sorry that I made you cry
Oh my I didn’t want to hurt you
I’m just a jealous guy

- John Lennon, Jealous Guy

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If your compassionate, loving, and understanding persona believes you can help your jealous partner change, think again. And I will tell you how it works from my own experience.

At first, you are flattered by him being jealous convinced that this means he really cares about you…


Our ego is a strange creature — it wants familiarity even though it’s hurtful and not serving us.

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My healing began after I left a very toxic relationship. I knew it would be a lifetime journey for me where I can’t accelerate or skip some parts of it. I was aware that recovery requires time and patience, acceptance and self-compassion.

Self-healing is a transformation. You go through phases of pain, self-discovery, changes. You learn, you adjust, you take actions. Usually, you take 2–3 steps forward and one step back which means you are still progressing towards your enlightenment. Sometimes you…

Magda Gradowa

I write for the love of exploring and embracing new things, ideas and activities. You can find me here: www.gradowa.com

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